One of the biggest problems millennials face, especially those who have traditional values larger than themselves such as being racially conscious, is finding a mate. This has led to mutual recriminations between the sexes, retreats to MGTOW, and even Incel and White Sharia proclivities.
The following advice is good for singles of all ages and both genders. It’s not a panacea, and won’t work if one side in a potential relationship stops being such a picky perfectionist and the other doesn’t: that road leads to losing yourself in the other and being henpecked or dominated. But it does reflect a much more healthy attitude towards relationships.
Let me be straightforward with both of you. Racially conscious men, I know far too many of you who are pushing middle age and still holding out for the perfectly proportioned twenty year old virgin Aryan goddess who has all the domestic sensibilities of an 1850s housewife. You know, the one who is sweet and caring and compassionate and soft and feminine and submissive? You missed that boat when you were twenty-five and too immature to be the leader of a family. You still are. You want women to act like a traditional woman should, but you don’t know how to act like a man should. You think of sex as a commodity. You’re going to die alone. Your relatives who clean up after you are going to be embarrassed. Your name and direct bloodline ends with you, because you never were willing to settle.
Racially conscious ladies, I know far too many of you who have PTSD from a dozen bad relationships and a couple of kids in tow from one or two of them. You’re looking for Prince Charming to be Captain Saveaho and sweep you and your instant family just add ring off your collective feet, and finance yours and some other guys’ kids forever without exercising discipline over them or receiving their respect and obedience. You want to be a “stay at home wife”, i.e., not have to work, and you have certain standards in how the guy and his bank account should look. You have more issues than National Geographic. They’re all, each and every one of them, some man’s fault. Whoever you marry will be blamed. You think of sex as a commodity. If you find a good man you’ll grind him down like a cold block of granite. Then you will leave him for the next adventure or kill him off from stress. Your kids will grow up and move away, and weeks after you die they will find you with your cats.
It doesn’t have to be that way, folks. It’s not supposed to be.
In the past marriages worked because they were arranged by parents, not based on some fantasy of romance. People had to stay together, so they had to bend to make things work, to get along, and eventually, that became love. The worst thing to happen to the family has been the ease of divorce and the removal of the societal stigma against living together outside of marriage. People of both sexes are weak and petty and selfish and in general have to be made to do what is right, against their will. Moral and secular laws forcing them to remain together and make stuff work out no matter how imperfect they might be were better for marriages and for families and our societies as a whole.
Stop trying so hard to find the perfect person. Try harder to find perfection in and with the person right in front of you.
–Billy Roper
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STOP SEARCHING FOR “THE ONE”
by Jonathan Pokluda
Johnathan Pokluda is a Pastor in the Dallas, Texas area and a columnist for Fox News.
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